Mom Shares 'Controversial' Rules She Raises Her Sons With

September 24, 2026 - 03:58

A mother of boys is drawing attention online after sharing the household rules she uses to keep her sons grounded. Kim Lawler, who posts on Instagram as @finestimaginary, put together a list she calls the controversial house rules she and her family follow because she refuses to raise entitled men. The post has struck a chord with other parents who say they face similar struggles at home.

The first rule on her list sets the tone for the rest of the household. If one of her sons wants help, he has to try on his own first. Her reasoning is simple. Without making an attempt, a child never learns what he is actually capable of. The idea pushes back against the habit of calling for a parent before even testing a task, whether it is tying a shoe, fixing a toy, or working through a problem.

Lawler's approach fits into a broader conversation about raising children who take responsibility for themselves. Many parents worry that doing too much for kids can leave them unprepared for adulthood. By asking her sons to attempt things alone before stepping in, she aims to build confidence and independence early. Other parents have responded with support, sharing their own rules and the lessons they hope to pass on.