Common Potty Training Challenges and How to Overcome Them

7 November 2025

Potty training is one of the biggest parenting milestones, but let’s be real—it’s not always smooth sailing. Every child is different, and while some take to potty training like a duck to water, others resist it like a cat avoiding a bath. If you’re in the trenches dealing with potty training struggles, don’t worry—you're not alone.

In this article, we’ll tackle the most common potty training challenges and, more importantly, how to overcome them. So grab a cup of coffee (because let’s face it, you’ll need the patience), and let’s dive in!

1. Resistance to Potty Training

The Challenge:

Your child straight-up refuses to sit on the potty. Every time you bring it up, they shake their head, run away, or scream like you just said they have to eat broccoli for the rest of their life.

The Solution:

First, take a step back and figure out if your child is actually ready. Some kids aren’t ready until they’re closer to three, and that’s totally normal. Signs of readiness include:

- Staying dry for longer periods
- Showing interest in the bathroom
- Telling you when they need to go or have already gone

If they seem ready but are still resisting, make it fun! Let them pick out a cool potty seat or underwear with their favorite characters. Use books, songs, or even a "potty chart" with stickers to encourage them. And most importantly—don’t force it. Pushing too hard might backfire.

2. Fear of the Toilet

The Challenge:

Some kids are terrified of the toilet. The flush, the height, the idea of their waste disappearing forever—it can all be overwhelming.

The Solution:

Start with a small potty chair on the floor rather than a big toilet. If they’re scared of flushing, let them control when it happens. Show them that toilets are safe by letting them see you use it (kids love copying parents). Gradually introduce the big toilet at their own pace.

You can also turn it into a game: "Let’s say bye-bye to the pee-pee!" or "Can you help flush the toilet like a superhero?" Making it playful reduces anxiety.

3. Accidents Happen (A LOT)

The Challenge:

Even when you think they’ve got the hang of it, accidents still happen—on the couch, in the car, or at the very worst, in the grocery store.

The Solution:

Patience is key. Accidents are part of the learning process, just like falling when learning to walk. Instead of scolding, say something like, “Oops! That’s okay. Next time, let’s try to make it to the potty.”

Make sure they’re going regularly and remind them often. Sometimes kids get so busy playing that they forget. Setting a timer every 1-2 hours can help. Also, always carry extra clothes when you’re out—you’ll thank yourself later.

4. Won't Poop in the Potty

The Challenge:

Your child is fine peeing in the potty but refuses to poop in it. Instead, they hold it in or ask for a diaper.

The Solution:

This is super common and often linked to fear or discomfort. Some kids don’t like the feeling of pooping in the open potty after being used to the snug security of a diaper.

One trick is to let them sit on the potty while wearing a diaper, then slowly transition to going without it. You can also try reading a fun book while they sit to help them relax. And make sure they’re not constipated, as that can make things even more difficult. Offer fiber-rich foods and lots of water to keep things moving.

5. Nighttime Wetting

The Challenge:

Your child is dry during the day but still wets the bed at night.

The Solution:

Nighttime training takes longer because bladder control develops differently for each child. Many kids aren’t fully dry at night until they’re 5 or even older.

Help by limiting drinks an hour before bed and making sure they use the potty right before sleep. Some parents also do a "dream pee" by gently waking their child for a quick potty trip before they wet the bed.

If they do have an accident, try not to make a big deal out of it. Waterproof mattress covers are lifesavers!

6. Holding It In

The Challenge:

Some kids refuse to go, even when they really need to. This can lead to constipation and discomfort.

The Solution:

There are several reasons kids hold it in—fear, control, or not wanting to stop playing. Make toilet time routine and stress-free. Encourage them to sit on the potty at regular times, like after meals.

If constipation is an issue, up their fiber intake with fruits, veggies, and whole grains. If they feel comfortable, they’ll be more likely to go.

7. Public Restroom Anxiety

The Challenge:

Your child is fine using the potty at home but refuses to go anywhere else.

The Solution:

Public restrooms can be loud, big, and a little intimidating. Carry a portable potty seat to make them feel more secure. You can also teach them to cover their ears if the automatic flush noise scares them.

Try using fun encouragements like, “Let’s see if this potty is as cool as ours at home!” The more they get used to different bathrooms, the easier it will get.

8. Regression – Suddenly Refusing to Use the Potty

The Challenge:

Your child was doing great, and then, out of nowhere, they’re back to having accidents or refusing to use the potty at all.

The Solution:

Regression is frustrating but normal. It often happens due to big life changes—starting preschool, a new sibling, or changes in routine. Stress or illness can also trigger setbacks.

Instead of getting frustrated, reassure them. Stick to a consistent routine and offer gentle encouragement. Sometimes, giving them a little control—like choosing their underwear—can help get things back on track.

Final Thoughts

Potty training is a journey—sometimes a rollercoaster. Some days will feel like a victory parade, and others will feel like you’re back at square one. But remember, every child gets there eventually. The key is patience, encouragement, and keeping a sense of humor when accidents happen.

At the end of the day, this is just one of the many stages of parenting that will pass. Hang in there, keep those wipes handy, and celebrate the small wins along the way!